Can you, as of this moment… Love your imperfections…

Can you, as of this moment…accept yourself the way you are….despite all your imperfections….

But before one attempts to answer this… it is imperative that one better understands certain key pre-requisites. Certain key shades of the society and the resultant frame of mind it induces need to be focussed on…

Firstly…

Not all individuals fit into a society.. They are straight away branded a misfit…Society thrives only in numbers…in masses….. Individuality be damned…

A Society can function if and only if…it creates a scarcity…a drought…a ladder….whose top rung can be reached only by one or a chosen few..and in pursuit of this.. if you trample upon a hundred other vying participants…its grit…its sheer determination…all glossy adjectives….In pursuit…U have simply become too numb to realize that you are trampling on other human beings…U have reached the lowest manifestation of a human being… a robot….

So…..

  • despite all the certified shortcomings.. passed onto you by society in the form of various group and psychological and situational assessments…
  • despite the image consultants gauging and assessing competencies which you lack and camouflaging your imperfections…
  • and despite your very own and parental comparisons and inferences of what you don’t possess wrt your peers, friends etc…

the simple fact of the matter is “CAN U @ THIS VERY INSTANT…ACCEPT YOURSELF”…the way you are….can U accept Yourself  with all your societally imposed shortcomings….which really is a crude way for the “Society” to brand you… label you..to place you in their factory line…It’s crude…but Societies cover this up with gloss… with varying degrees of crudity .. downright crudity to sophisticated crudity….

Secondly…

We are all born into Societies… There is no escape.. Further…our minds our conditioned by anybody and everybody in Society….rule-sets are imposed onto a tender virgin mind…a pulsating consciousness… …

Frankly till the point one rebels… he does not have a “Mind” of his own….He has only been fed… by Parents…by Schools…by Religion…By Relatives…By Expectations…A set of do’s and dont’s… The individuals virginity is already destroyed. Already trampled upon….at the mental realm… All this happens of its own accord.. beyond the child’s control…..the birth is only a trigger…

So, with this background….

Can U FORGIVE urself this very instant… for the so called wrongs …which may have been committed in  moments of our journey through a dark alley… in moments with our lower self…in moments where a fragile mind was trying its level best to outshout … to rebel…against the established societally implanted mind-set….a hollow mind set…

Well, the next best alternative if not “Forgive our-self”  is to “Forget” Ourself…And what better way than Drugs… If u cannot forget yourself with nature…naturally.. existentially….then at least artificially…through Drugs… through Alcohol… through Sex…through substance abuse….U can forget yourself artificially atleast….its easier and available to those seeking…

Also…………..

Its not easy to forget oneself naturally….Its an art… that needs time… “You spending time with Yourself”..”YOUTIME”.. This needs to be persisted with… wherein the rest of the world is dead…the ones around you are no longer there…where the other is not a concern at all….. Its only “YOU”… in total and absolute silence…

Religion is one sense is … that which facilitates one to understand the dynamics of the mind better …and nothing more…So knowing a bit more of the mind would help….

The conscious mind is the tip of the iceberg… the visible tip above the ocean.. from where you derive your identity… and other societal labels…. the rest of the mind…the subconscious is hidden beneath the surface… much more powerful… much more bigger…..for all the abuse.. the hurt…the pain…all are well entrenched in the layers of the subconscious mind…beneath the surface…

And the mind is intrinsically Judgemental… It loves to remind us of our follies.. and keep the cinders on… frying one in the oil of  guilt so to say…. the moment we try to lighten up….to let go.. and walk ahead….more often than not…we end up slipping…falling deeper and deeper into the grip of the judgemental mind….

What can the poor conscious mind do…. except heed the much more powerful subconscious mind….The one hidden beneath the surface…which one may or may not be aware of..

And as long as expectations exist…Mood Swings too would…all humans experience these mood swings… add to this concoction… all these…reinforce this mind split.. add to the fragmented chaos of the mind…and validate the cyclical pattern …. the journey from a peak to an abyss…we ride our emotions between extremes…unfortunately without noticing their patterns…

The dictionary definition of “Pattern” is – a discernible regularity in the world or in a man made design

As in my earlier blogs, a simple graphical representation can clear the air compared to all mystic mumbo jumbo.. so here goes…

When performance or evaluation or acceptance or behaviour (in blue line) is not in phase…lags.. with “Expectation”:as depicted below in Red line… its a Hangover Time.. A time of rejection… A Time when “All Eyes” look down upon You…A Failure…A Misfit…. You are a Confused Concoction..

PiC-1      You always “LAG” wrt Expectations…An out of phase individual…

And chemicals are a great catalyst… a great inducement agent…the plot of “Expectation” is erased….its Hallelujah Time. You are Yourself…(ref the pic-2 below)

PiC-2…..You forget all about Expectations… Its only you who exists…alone… the way you are… with the positive and the negative… complete..

A point specifically on Religion and Society…

Religion either intentionally or otherwise focusses …. Only on the positive sine curve… but humans undergo both the positive and negative sine curve.. and then the “Religious”  exert leverage and induce guilt over the common man by stating that to experience the negative sine curve is “SIN”… See the pattern…See the gap between the two curves ref the above pic… and then one is always trying to play catch up…you are never in sync…with Life…

And Society always expects Maturity…Finesse.. Sophistication.. Artificiality…

There is no room for guilt…no room for the negative wave…no space to express.. its uncouth…its your inability to cope…

All I would suggest is… that its your journey of Life… You can be independent… and walk the journey alone…its your life… your journey and no one else can walk it for you…do not outsource it to others… you are your best fit… just walk it with awareness…

For a brief background on Awareness…please refer the link

https://swamikosho.wordpress.com/2015/11/01/alertness-awareness-a-now-ness-and-a-mango/

For the below is the fit of each individual against the “IDEAL” Sine wave(the smooth black wave below)….You are never perfect…You are always imperfect… In realizing your imperfection… in accepting your imperfection… you have stumbled upon a liberating key…that the perfect wave is the one that “YOU” create..of whatever pattern(ref the blue and red patterns). not the one that society or religion sells to you….(the smooth black wave)

Pic-3A perfect Mismatch….Welcome to Life…Welcome Yourself
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